Make Some Rules

While a singles sex party can be great, without rules it can go horribly wrong very quickly. If you don’t want people bringing dates that you don’t know, then you need to make this clear and enforce it as the guests start to show up. You may want it to be swinger’s style and allow couples. If this is the case, make this clear. You don’t want any single guests who didn’t bring a partner to feel uncomfortable or left out. Just whatever rules you think you should have, have them, and communicate them to everyone invited.

Preparing

You don’t want to just wake up and decide to have a sex party without any prep work. You of course want your flat to be clean and presentable. You also need to make sure that everyone is safe. This means supplying condoms and lube to everyone. You also want to make them comfortable. Have different areas designated for different activities. This way, if someone wants some privacy they have a place for this. Keep towels and hampers readily available around the party are too. This is going to help clean up later on. Having finger foods is also a good idea. This way if people start to get hungry they aren’t walking around miserable.

Use Protection

It should go without saying that you should use protection anytime you have sex, especially if you are a married man and having gay male sex. You don’t want to end up getting an STD, or worse, giving it to your wife. To avoid having the conversation explaining how you got the sexually transmitted diseases, just make sure you use a condom each time.

Location

When you are meeting up for discrete sex, gay or not, you need to think about the location carefully. It’s always best to choose a place that is out of the way for both of you. If you meet at a hotel in your local town, you’re running the risk of being recognized by someone who could potentially tell your spouse. Instead, look for places that are a town or two away. Schedule a long lunch break at work so the spouse won’t realize you’re even gone. You need to make sure the guy you are meeting up with understands that it needs to be kept discrete. If you have a bad feeling about them, don’t go. It’s best to skip out on sex once day than be ousted entirely.

Think Outside the Box

Dinner and a movie is a good date, but it’s not very creative or original. More importantly, it doesn’t give you a chance to really do anything that you know you both want to do. You can get naughty at a movie theatre, but you can also get in trouble for this. Instead look at going to a high energy dance club. This will give you both an opportunity to get close and sweaty, and think about what you want to do later. If things go well, you can go somewhere more private when you’re worn out from dancing.

Renting Private Rooms

Look at getting a private room and having dinner delivered. Rent some movies, and grab some card games. Any type of game can be turned in to a naughty game. The rented space will feel more like a tryst than a date, and that will increase the sexual energy. Plus if you are in a hotel room you are free to do whatever you want without worrying about getting in any trouble of offending anyone else.

Keep it Clean

There are two parts to this. A website design that is easy to scroll through will be the most desirable. Even if you are a flashy person, try to keep this off the website itself. If it’s got a dark background or a lot of distracting images and flash buttons, you won’t be taken seriously. The second part to this is to keep it clean sexually. You may be looking for a more adult dating situation, but you don’t want this on the front page of your personal website. This will turn more people off than it will turn on.

What to Say

Think of your personal web site as a resume for dating. You need to include information about yourself that is useful. If you just say your first name and then start listing everything you’re looking for in a partner you aren’t giving anyone any reason to try to contact you. You need to sell yourself in your words. Talk about your interests, things you are good at, and what you can offer to the other person. This is going to attract far more responses than just listing what you want. Of course, you should include what you’re looking for in a date too, just don’t make that the main focus.

Secluded Areas

There is nothing worse than being in the middle of a tryst in a car and having someone wander up on you. You don’t want to just pull over the side of the road and get busy. Instead find an area that is far enough off the road where you won’t be easily seen. You don’t have to track out in to the wilderness, just be smart about where you park.

Be Aware of Your Surroundings

Before you start anything, you want to be aware of your surroundings. Make sure you aren’t sitting on a piece of private property. You also don’t want to be near any bars or clubs where people can come out in droves. Unless you are looking to be watched, don’t go to areas known for dogging. Another way to stay safe is to make sure your keys stay in the ignition in case you have to make a quick get away. Keeping the doors and windows locked will also keep you safe.

Positions

You are going to be limited with the positions you can get in to in a car. One of the best positions doesn’t require you to leave the front seat. Have her lean against the back of the front seat with her rear facing the windshield. This way he can get behind her easily.

Outside Links

If you see an advert for a woman looking for girl on girl action, look for outside links. A lot of these adverts are really just covert advertising to pornography or live sex show websites. While this may be acceptable for you, you may not get to meet them. It’s best to just avoid these types of ads entirely. Genuine ads won’t ask you to go to an outside link and enter credit card information.

Pictures

Look closely at the photos in these ads. If there aren’t photos, see if they are willing to exchange. You aren’t going to find supermodels posting online adverts looking for bisexual girl on girl action. If the picture looks too perfect, it’s probably not real. While wanting an attractive woman to play with is fine, just remember that you aren’t going to find the perfect 10 online, if you find them at all.

Pay to Play

A phrase to watch out for is ‘pay to play’. This is common in online adverts. This essentially means the girl is an escort and will put on a show for the right price.